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I’m Just Not Good Enough

I sat outside on my yoga mat with my eyes closed and just breathed. It was cold outside in south eastern Arizona, but the sun warmed my upturned face. The kids were off in the grasslands playing in their “fort” and I could hear them laughing in the distance. For a moment I was content to just be me.

For so long I’ve kept an unhealthy pace. Not content to simply write about our adventures and traveling from a journal perspective, this blogging adventure morphed into more of a business.  In order to be a “blogger” I created a laundry list of items to check off my list. Work with brands. Acquire advertising revenue. Make money. Gain followers. Attend conferences. Grow my audience. Somewhere along the journey I lost track of our original goal: Help and inspire families through outdoor adventure and travel. Soon that goal was buried under a pile of “supposed to’s”. 

“What if we are normal and quiet and happy? Does that count?” -Brené Brown

Page after page in my personal journal over the last year talks of unhappiness, discontentment, and an overwhelming feeling of not being good enough. I’m not a good enough blogger. I don’t have enough time to keep up with all the projects in my head. I’m a horrible wife. I’m not a good enough mother. I’m a terrible at traveling full time – I can’t even keep things together. I paid too much attention to social media and somehow the majority of my self worth was determined by how many followers I had, or how many likes a particular photo received.

Its not a healthy way to live.

Last December I decided I was done. Done with pretty much everything. I was upset, depressed, and really just couldn’t get things together. I desperately wanted things to change and I finally had the courage to start saying “No”.

Its amazing the peace that a little two letter word brought into my life. Facebook came off my phone (I can’t even begin to tell you how angry it makes me), I put one of my Instagram accounts on hold, I left a group the core group of amazing women working on the 365MileChallenge project. While I still have companies and brands I love and plan to work with, I stopped soliciting new ones and have been more selective of the projects we take on.

We invented a card game. I can’t tell you how ridiculously excited I am about that.

I decided to focus my blogging more on telling our story. I carry my Kindle with me everywhere in an effort to read good books instead of mindlessly scrolling on my phone. I’ve made an effort to exercise regularly again, eat healthy, and we’ve slowed our travel pace considerably. 18 days at McDowell Mountain in Arizona was a balm for my fracture soul.

“I give myself permission to slow down. I’m finally succumbing to the fact that I don’t have to DO and that I can just BE.” – Kelli France

But, most importantly I turned my heart back to the Lord. With all my new free time I’ve concentrated on beginning my day with scripture study. Even if its just 10 minutes before I get up and get the day going, I feel more at peace and focused.  I make sure that I pray every day.  We are working hard as a family to keep the Sabbath Day holy. One of my good friends introduced me to an online institute class that is sponsored by her stake in Utah. Sisters in Scriptures is taught by truly inspired women and I’m grateful they’ve made their classes available as podcasts. Learning more about the Doctrine & Covenants through this class has also enriched my Sunday study of the same book of scripture.

Slowly but surely I feel myself pulling back from the black void I felt was imminent in my future.  Looking back I feel that perhaps I overreacted. It really couldn’t have been that bad, could it? Its amazing how easily our mind adapts and glosses over the bleaker portions of our lives. It WAS that bad, but now instead of listening to my gremlins I take time to remember what I’m grateful for. When my inner demons tell me I’m not good enough I can respond with “Yes I am. I am enough. I don’t need to prove myself to anyone.”

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  • Shannon Bassett - Hi Jess – loved this! I can identify. As the first full time family we met almost 2 years ago at that special site in Sedona over Easter weekend, I was so impressed by your kids. You may not feel you are always the best — but even way back when you were killing it! Your family and especially your kids, set the bar high. Accepting, interesting, outgoing, friendly, talkative, nice – all amazing traits for anyone and impressive of such little people.
    Keep up the good work, keep saying no and enjoy the moment. Hope to cross paths with you soon.ReplyCancel

    • Jess - Thanks Shannon! You are so sweet. We’d love to share a campfire again with you guys anytime!ReplyCancel

  • Te - Wonderful 🙂 Big hug!


  • Kelly Ann Barr - Hi Jess and Sam,
    I tried to post this on your blob but it would not allow me too. I just read your post, Im not good enough!!
    Wow Jess, thanks for this blog so much. I am just now digging myself out of a hole that We have been in for the last 9 months . I was sitting in our RV (we have been living here for a few months while Keith gets treatments) and you all popped into my mind. I looked on here and I am nosying around and reading. Sometimes I have to look beyond it all and I cry in a closet alone sometimes, dealing with it all alone, and to read your blog just now has renewed my spirit again. Thank you for your honesty. FB is coming off of my phone as I write this. Time is spent way too much on what people think, if they like your post or not, blah blah blah. You are right, I dont have to prove myself to anyone at all……….l. Hugs and love, KellyReplyCancel

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