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The Virginia Historic Triangle: You Should Skip Williamsburg and Visit Jamestown Settlement With Your Kids Instead

It was by sheer luck that we visited Jamestown Settlement first. We were having a hot dog roast over at a friends house in Virginia and I casually mentioned we were headed down to Williamsburg the next morning. “Oh! You definitely should visit the Jamestown Settlement. It’s perfect for young kids and really close by,” my friend told us. Huh. Jamestown was more of an afterthought on my list as everyone else I had talked to raved about Williamsburg and how amazing it was. Luckily, we took her advice and visited Jamestown first.

When We Visited: October 2013

Ages of Kids: 8, 6, 3

Tips: Ask for the home school discount (assuming you do, in fact, home school), and pack a lunch. There are plenty of picnic tables outside and you can re-enter.

As confusing as it might be, there are 2 different “Jamestown” places in Virginia to visit. There’s Jamestown Settlement, run by a private organization, and then Historic Jamestowne co-run by the National Park Service and a private anthropological society. Both are nice, and within a few miles of each other but the Settlement was the most exciting for our kids.

Jamestown Settlement is designed to give visitors a look into early 17th century Virginia and the world of the first permanent English colony. Galleries, exhibits, and films describe the culture of both the Powhatan Indians and the colonists that lived in the Jamestown Fort. There’s 4 main sections: The Powhatan Village, the Shipyard, the Fort, and the indoor exhibits. All three of the recreations were involved and interesting enough we had little time left over for the exhibits.

We visited the village first which include life-sized Powhatan huts, or “yehakins” that kids can climb in, feel the furs, grind some corn, sharpen bones to use as tools, and scrape hair off leather hides. There were period-dressed actors demonstrating and helping as well. I even followed a school group around for bit as I liked listening to what their tour guide was saying.Jamestown Settlement Powhatan VillageAfter a quick break for lunch, we walked down to the water’s edge and the shipyard. It consists of recreations of all three ships that brought the settlers from England: The Susan Constant, the Godspeed and Discovery. The kids’ favorite part was probably climbing through and laying down in the sailor’s bunks. Interestingly enough, all three ships are sail-able. They even take them up the coast as part of an educational outreach program. If you can’t go to them, there’s a good chance they can come to you.

Jamestown Settlement ShipsThe third section is the fort. Definitely not to scale, but they have recreated a variety of buildings to give visitors an idea of what life would be like. There’s a church, a jail, the governor’s house, the gun shop, storage houses and more. The kids dressed up, set the table, and watched a demonstration on how to properly fire and then clean a musket. There were even chickens running around as one man told me, “Where else would they get their eggs?”

Jamestown Settlement FortIt was a fantastic visit. Very hands on with lots to explore, see, touch, and become involved in. Perfect for kids. We spent so much time here we only made it over to Williamsburg for a short time before their activities closed down for the evening. We did manage to see a short military drill, and George Washington rode out on his horse and gave a speech about marching on Yorktown the following morning and driving the British back to the sea. From what I could tell, however, Williamsburg is a collection of shops, restaurants, and other more adult-oriented activities. One employee did explain that they had blacksmith demonstrations and other similar things in some of the buildings but I don’t think my kids would have been as excited about that. Perhaps we’ll save that one for when they are older.

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Proper Care and Feeding of a Work-From-Home, Self-Employed Husband

One of our most frequent questions is, “How do you spend so much time with your husband?” (Replace “husband” with “kids” and you’ll get another frequently asked question, but that’s another blog post entirely.) Some people find the thought of their husband working from home, in their space all the time completely unfathomable, and I totally understand that. It was an adjustment for me too.

What these people probably don’t realize is that Sam working from home is not a new thing for us. He has been self-employed and working from home for most of our married life. However, during the first few years the grass appeared greener on the other side. I was so excited for Sam to get a “real” job after college. He took a position with a start-up company and the position included health benefits. I was excited! After managing our health insurance for the last 5 years this was going to be great! It would be less expensive! It would be better coverage!

Unfortunately, we realized that the “dream” job was in fact, not our dream. 2 months into our 9-5, “normal” job I pleadingly looked at Sam and asked if he could quit and come work from home again. I hated being restricted on our health plan choices, (turns out I liked having control over that), he worked long hours some weeks, and most of all, I missed him. When the time came to quit his job, we both gave a huge sigh of relief and jumped right back into Sam working from home.

While our specific arrangement and work spaces have changed over time, the general activities and balance has not. For those of you with husbands thinking about working from home, here are 10 things I’ve learned over the last 10 years:

1. Yes, He’s Home, but He’s Not REALLY Home.

This was probably the most surprising realization for me. In our first few months of marriage, I’d kiss Sam and whisk myself away to school and work while he stayed in our basement apartment to program. I’d come back near the end of the day and be upset that the house was still a mess and there were dirty dishes in the sink. Didn’t he do ANYTHING while I was gone? How is this place still a disaster? Turns out he WAS doing something: working. I’ve learned to not expect anything domestic related while my husband is at “work”. It’s not fair to him. He’s trying hard to pay the bills, he doesn’t need to take breaks and wash dishes as well.

2. Work is Over at 5pm. 

Sam doesn’t need 8 hours to pay the bills, and most of the time could be “done” with work around 3 or 4 in the afternoon. While I’m sure I could come up with a list of things to throw at him the moment he walked upstairs, I learned that he needs his own time. If he gets done with work early, I figure he’s earned some “free” time. He’d often use those extra couple of hours for house projects he’s been waiting on, he’d go on a bike ride, or even work on a personal programming side project. Didn’t matter to me. That was HIS time. Honestly, I really didn’t want him coming “home” before 5pm anyway. That was MY time.

3. Set Spacial Boundaries.

If you are like us, and have kids, it adds a whole new dimension to daddy is home all day. Fortunately, our kids are great at leaving daddy alone and just letting him work. Back in our Lehi home, Sam had a dedicated office where he could physically close the door. The kids knew that they weren’t supposed to bother dad unless mom asked them to, or it was an emergency.

If you don’t have an dedicated office with a closed door, maybe set up a corner of a room that’s daddy’s space and teach your kids not to interrupt. Here in the Airstream, that’s pretty much how we do it. I try and scram with the kids as much as possible (school outside, museum trips, walks or bike rides) but often times Sam is just holed up back on the bed with the curtain closed and his headphones on. The kids still know that they need to ask me for things and not him.

4. Don’t Pop In to Chat.

This goes along with #3, but I felt needed some additional clarification. Women are chatterboxes. Well, lots of them are. We like to sit around and talk about things, and when our husbands are home all day, shouldn’t we get to talk to them too? Turns out that’s a bad idea. Sam gets his head into a problem and gets really grumpy when you interrupt him. Not only that, but after an interruption that takes him out of the zone, it’ll be a good 15 minutes before he can wrap his mind around it again. Can you imagine doing that all day? It would be frustrating.

So, instead of opening the door and sticking my head in to ask a question, we Google Chat. Seriously. Its much less intrusive for him, and he can respond when he gets a minute instead of being interrupted.

5. I Don’t Need Rescuing.

This is a bit of the flip side and something Sam had to learn. There were times when I was disciplining (yelling) at the kids, and he’d come bounding up the stairs to reinforce whatever punishment I was dishing out. In his mind, he was supporting me, in my mind he was being obnoxious. I don’t need help, get out of my space. He’s learned to let things go while he’s at work. Having a nice set of headphones to block out the noise certainly helps, but unless I ask for back-up he usually just ignores the yelling.

6. Feed Him Lunch. Or Not. But Warn Him.

Sometimes I just don’t want to be responsible for 3 meals a day. Having Sam home for lunch everyday got to be a bit of a chore. Somehow, if he was there, I couldn’t just feed the kids mac & cheese and then scrounge something for myself. It had to be LUNCH. There was more perceived pressure there to provide something nice for my hard-working husband.

It was all in my head, and I eventually got over it, but the mental shift took some work. Usually we’d have leftovers, but occasionally I had something going on and we’d be away for lunch. Sam would come wandering up around 1pm and wonder where everyone was and what was for lunch? As long as I warned him we were gone, he was definitely capable of coming up with his own food, but it was the times I’d forget to warn him that created the most friction.

7. He Doesn’t Get to Come to Everything.

Just as if he were at an office, Sam doesn’t do everything with us during the day. He really does have to work. He misses out. Sometimes its bigger things, and other times not so important ones. I try to save the really cool places and activities for times and days where he can come. We adjust his work schedule often and will take off in the middle of the afternoon when places are less crowded and he’ll work in the evening instead. But there are a lot of really cool places that the kids and I have been to and Sam has not. Its just life.

9. Be Patient and Adjust When Necessary.

While we realize this type of work situation is not ideal for everyone, it definitely has its benefits. Its also not a lifestyle that becomes perfect overnight. We’ve had to re-adjust a few things to adapt to life in the Airstream, but overall its not too different. Mostly I am amazed at Sam’s focus and ability to ignore the chaos swirling around him in such a small space.

Our schedule is definitely a bit more flexible as some days are driving days, others there’s an activity we want to do all together. Mostly I have just learned to let him work when he has the time. Whether its early in the morning, or late at night after the kids are in bed.

10. Enjoy It.

I LOVE having Sam home for three meals a day. I love seeing him when he comes up for snacks or just wanders out for a break to say “hello”. I love that we get to spend so much time together. Sometimes I’d even put Cara down for her nap (the other two were at school), warn Sam and then run errands all by myself. It was great! In perfect honesty, there are also a few other activities that went on during nap time as well. Use your imagination.

We are to the point where if we aren’t together all day, something feels off. There have been a few times in the last 2 months where Sam has gone into an office with a friend. We’d get together at the end of the day and I’d realize how terribly I’d missed him and how off my day was. Things just didn’t run as smoothly.

Truth is, our personalities just mesh really well. We are the type of people who can spend hours together and not get tired of the company. For that I am really grateful. Is our life perfect? Far from it. But we’ve enjoyed growing together as a couple and as a family with the extra time we’ve been able to spend together as Sam is around all day.

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Zero Motivation Kind of a Day

Today is an icky, blah kind of day. I know everyone gets those, but when I have no personal space, its cold outside, and my kids are jumpy I really struggle. A lot. I can’t just send my kids off to school and curl up with a book and a cup of hot chocolate. As much as I want to want to shake this mood, part of me just wants to wallow in self pity.

Since my motivation today is zero (including, ahem, blogging) I thought I’d share some of my favorite photos so far. Maybe they’ll cheer me up.IMG_3626-Edit copyIMG_3726-2-Edit copyIMG_3797-Edit copySkidaway Island State Park-4Skidaway Island State Park-14Currently wandering-12Delaware Seashore state park playgroundIMG_0032-Edit copyIMG_1608IMG_2017IMG_2051-Edit copyIMG_2262IMG_2510-Edit copyIMG_2577IMG_2920-Edit copyIMG_3053IMG_3079-Edit copyIMG_3260IMG_3527-Edit copy

Delaware Seashore State Park-Charles W. Cullen bridge

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Our Number One Recommendation to Prepare Financially for Life on the Road

Our Number One Recommendation to Prepare Financially for Life on the RoadAlthough it may seem like we jumped into the decision to abandon our lifestyle and go mobile, it has actually been a long time in the making. We didn’t just wake up one day and decide to sell the minivan, buy an Airstream and a truck and drive into the sunset.

So, what did we do?

Our biggest concern as we started planning and scheming was money. How would we afford this? Not just the everyday life, but the initial purchase of both an Airstream and a truck. We had 3 month’s worth of money saved in the bank as an emergency buffer (good idea in anyone’s situation I think) but in no way was it enough to cover the purchases. We definitely needed to finance, but wanted to make sure we’d still have money every month to buy groceries and gas after the monthly payments. As we started looking at our bank accounts we realized there were a few helpful things we were already doing.

1. We paid off our minivan in the spring of 2012. Instead of using that “extra” $600 for day to day life (however tempting that might have sounded) we began paying into a separate “car fund” savings account at our bank so that next time we needed to buy a car we could pay for it in cash. Separate account made it less tempting to spend.

2. We have been a 1 car family since the summer of 2012. Our Ford Focus’ engine died right before we left for California for 5 weeks. We eventually sold it on Craigslist and figured we’d buy another car when and if we needed it. We never have. We do realize Sam working from home really helps this situation. I’m definitely not the type of wife to be stuck at home while my husband has the car all day at work, but I could do it if necessary. If he had a commute, Sam could also bike, take public transportation, or carpool a few days a week so I could have the car to run errands. Lots of possibilities to free up a few hundred dollars a month.

3. We had maxed out our emergency buffer savings account and started putting that $500 into the car fund in addition to the $600 we were already saving.

We totaled up the amount in the car fund and it was a hefty enough sum to put a $5000 down payment on a used truck to lower our monthly premium while not completely draining the account. Once all our loans went through (that’s a different story – not many banks will loan to the self-employed) our monthly payments totaled $829, which turned out to be $270 LESS than the amount we were currently saving into the car fund. Our purchases of both a truck and the Airstream were not going to cost us any extra money per month. After we sold our minivan, that money went back into our savings account & car fund to bring those back up to reasonable levels. We still put that extra $270 into the car fund every month as we anticipate new tires, new batteries (did that one last week), and other improvements or repairs we’ll need to do along the way.

This brings me to our Number One Recommendation to Prepare Financially for Life on the Road:

Live below your means.

Well below your means if you can help it. I can’t tell you how many months I wished we had more money for eating out, taking the kids to movies, going on fun vacations, even groceries. Not stressing about my grocery budget would have made my life so much simpler. I’d look at that account transfer every month and think, “But if we just used a little of it…”

You know what? It was worth it. Every time we scrimped, every time we decided to not make a big purchase but instead save the money, every time I made dinner instead of eating out, we were one step closer to our dream.

Fulfilling and living our dream took sacrifice and planning. It hasn’t been an easy road (it still isn’t) but knowing that we are actually doing what we’ve always dreamed about is better than anything else we could have bought.

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We Never Walk Alone

LDS Omaha Nebraska TempleIn the midst of the trials and tribulations this life has to offer us, sometimes it is difficult to remember that we are never alone. Always we have a loving Father in Heaven who guides, directs, comforts, and inspires us along our path in life. He is waiting for us to turn to Him in prayer so that He can pour out his blessings upon us.

President Ezra Taft Benson once said, “All through my life the counsel to depend on prayer has been prize above almost any other advice I have…received. It has become an integral part of me – an anchor, a constant source of strength, and the basis of my knowledge of things divine….

“…Though reverses come, in prayer we can find reassurance, for God will speak peace to the soul. That peace, that spirit of serenity, is life’s greatest blessing.”

The Apostle Paul also admonished us to “Let your request be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Answers to our prayers comes in many different ways. A feeling of comfort, a kind act from a neighbor, a friend, or even a stranger. Sometimes we are inspired to to change something in our lives that later will yield the blessing we have been yearning for. Our answers sometimes take longer than we’d like as we’ve been told that our time is not the Lord’s time.

I’d like to share an example from my life when I had an answer to a prayer and knew, without a doubt, that I don’t walk this path alone.

About a year ago, Sam and I were trying to make a decision about the direction our life should head. We had a spent a portion of the previous summer traveling in California and loved the effect it had on our family. Returning home to Lehi, Utah was very difficult for me. Having grown up not far from our home, and spent most of my life in Utah, I yearned for something different. We had never wanted to settle in Utah, but felt impressed to take the job offer when it came that would keep us there. As we prayed and pondered I felt no direction coming from the Lord. The answer was always to just “wait”.

The end of December and the beginning of January that year was the coldest in my memory. The high temperatures ranged from 10 degrees to about 18 for at least 3 weeks. I was miserable, cold, unhappy, and slightly depressed. I didn’t want to be there and the cold weather gave me something to fixate my unhappiness on.

As the first Sunday of January approached and I prepared to fast, I desperately needed relief, peace, and some assurance that we wouldn’t be left in this place for the rest of our lives. I wanted to know that we were doing the right thing for Sam’s work, that I should continue my photography business, that we could find peace and joy in our current situation and that He would lead us in His own time.

Sam was sick that Sunday, so the kids and I went to church on our own. Even though our kids are well-behaved, handling them on my own during the hour of Sacrament Meeting is never a restful thing. As we pulled out our hymn books for the opening song and began singing, however, the Spirit hit me like a ton of bricks. This song was the answer to my prayers. Tears started streaming down my face and I almost couldn’t breathe.

The words to “I Know That My Redeemer Lives” spoke peace, comfort, and understanding to the very depths of my heart.

“He lives to grant me rich supply.
He lives to guide me with his eye.
He lives to comfort me when faint.
He lives to hear my soul’s complaint.
He lives to silence all my fears.
He lives to wipe away my tears.
He lives to calm my troubled heart.
He lives all blessings to impart.”

I wanted to the Lord to hear my soul’s complaint, wipe away my tears, and calm my troubled heart. It was comforting to know that He did and would again comfort me in times of trial, and that is what He lives for. “Oh, sweet the joy this sentence gives: “I know that my Redeemer lives!”

Sometimes our answers to prayers don’t come because of our unwillingness to humble ourselves and submit our will to God. Often, we cover ourselves with a pavilion that hides us from the Lord. Maybe our pavilion is one of professional ambition, perhaps we insist on our timetable when the Lord has His own, or sometimes we are even paralyzed by fear. In the 24th and 25th verses of D&C 121 the Lord says, “For there is a time appointed for every man, according as his works shall be.”

It is only when we remove the pavilion and feel in our hearts “Thy will be done” and “in Thine own time” that the Lord can begin to work with us. Elder Eyring recently stated, “Although His time is not always our time, we can be sure that the Lord keeps His promises. For any of you who now feel that He is hard to reach, I testify that the day will come that we all will see Him face to face. Just as there is nothing now to obscure His view of us, there will be nothing to obscure our view of Him. We will all stand before Him, in person… [and] our certain reunion with Him at the judgment bar will be more pleasing if we first do the things that make Him as familiar to us as we are to Him. As we serve Him, we become like Him, and we feel closer to Him as we approach that day when nothing will hide our view.”

I testify that the Lord loves us. I know He hears and answers our prayers. It can be difficult to wait upon the Lord, but always the experience and the blessings are more beautiful because of our humility.

I sit, right now, far from our home in Utah. I am in a state park in New Mexico watching the sky turn from black, to gray, to brilliant orange as the sun comes up over the horizon. I never would have imagined this life for us on our own. The Lord truly is great and His ways are always better than ours.

**For reference, please read President Henry B. Eyring’s talk “Where is the Pavilion?” and President Thomas S. Monson’s “We Never Walk Alone”.